Advice needed

[AbstractPoetic]

Just looking to see what the responses would be.

I know this may have been brought up before so I am sorry if this is another thread doomed to be locked. The basis of the situation is that I am a young east indian male coming from a typical indian background with pops, moms, grandparents, tantie and all. I have a friend of more than 10 years whom I have known and we've been great friends talking crap and hanging out all the time.

Thing is, I've spent so much time with her I don't know how to go about without talking to her and interacting with her on a daily basis. Recently, I realized that I like her, as in 'relationship' like her and I can see myself with her and we would be great together. The downside to this wonderful situation and I know most of you already see this coming, is that she isn't indian. In fact, she is of african decent. Now my family is real old school people and this wont go well at all with them, AT ALL! I can be positive that I am not the first in this situation and will not be the last, but racial victimization is very real and I am positive I will face it from my family. The quarreling and talks I am going to get will be insane. I may even be so bold as to be unsure of if certain members of my family will even talk to me again (yes, its that ridiculous). I am not sure what to do or how to proceed from here.

May I ask how old you are? Also, can you see yourself married to this girl and do you think she shares the same feelings towards you?

Remember, love sees no color. You will have to decide what is more important to you: your family's myopic way of thinking or your freedom to choose who you want to love.

I must say that its wonderful to see more East Indian men step out of their "comfort zones" to date and marry black women.

[crazybalhead]

with all dem phone call over 10 years you in the friend zone so long you'll need a map to get out...she never offer no bull? well yuh feel she go start now? you're the gay friend jim

This.

[AbstractPoetic]

your parents would dis own you. Plain and simple. Especially your father. You mother might come arround after a couple years, especially if you have children, doh mind she go play with she grandchild is level coconut oil in de child hair so she could slick it down and she go try to straighten de child nose to. Weight it out. Can you handle your own affairs? are you financially ready to stand on your own? are you ready to be a man?
scrap the last question,seeing you posted this here It has been answered.

Not entirely true. I have encountered many East Indian families that were more "liberal" in their approach. Not all share such backward thinking.

Either way it comes down to the man. Is he willing to stand stand up for what he wants or is family acceptance more important to him? Often times these question arise when money is in play. If money/inheritance of his parents' assets are more important to him then he should entertain relationships with his own.

[crazybalhead]

So AP yuh willing to date an Indian???

[AbstractPoetic]

So AP yuh willing to date an Indian???

With a smile like that...

But yuh married. I don't deal with married men. I respect the institute of marriage


But seriously, I don't see what the big deal is. Trinidad and Tobago has quite a number of East Indian men dating and marrying black women. If East Indian women are dating and marrying black men why can't East Indian men?

Desi-Afro love FTW!

[RASC]

Parents "Old School"

AH LUV ETTT

[buzz]

tell us how it goes buddy

[Rahtid]

i do have a good job. have a car. have money set aside too. I've been saving since I started working. Although that damn sr does take some extra money every month. pops for sure look like a lock off scene, moms cool with it tho.
swear is a Kabhi Khushi Kabhie Gham kinda sheit.

so whats the outcome so far?

[ronsin1]

But yuh married. I don't deal with married men. I respect the institute of marriage

That is correct Marriage should be respected that is why I have always stated married men should only date with married women

[sufferrar]

bummp

[pato]

Remember, love sees no color. You will have to decide what is more important to you: your family's myopic way of thinking or your freedom to choose who you want to love.

I must say that its wonderful to see more East Indian men step out of their "comfort zones" to date and marry black women.

Couldn't agree more ^^^

Firstly you would need to know if she feels the same way about you, if she feels the same then love should have no boundaries. If both of you have mutual feelings for each other then you should go for it.
You say your family is old fashioned then ofcourse you would need to make some sacrifices. And remember its your life so you have to ensure that you're happy and not have any regrets later on, and remember she might be a bit uncomfortable when dealing with your family members too so try not to put her in any compromising situation too soon especially if she's the conservative type.

[jimbob121]

You say your family is old fashioned then ofcourse you would need to make some sacrifices. And remember its your life so you have to ensure that you're happy and not have any regrets later on, and remember she might be a bit uncomfortable when dealing with your family members too so try not to put her in any compromising situation too soon especially if she's the conservative type.

My family already knows her as a friend. She has been to many of our limes and smiled and laughed with everyone. Sadly, fake frontal smiles are often frowns and the situation can take a turn for the worse if we were to cross the 'line'

I spoke to my grandmother and she is fine with it. My mother, ehhhhh...not so much but she'll live. Pops, ha! well not sure about that one.

AP: Money isn't in play. I'm from an average family. Only thing I inherited is my family's last name.

She does feel the same way about me and she has expressed it multiple times. I keep stalling.

I will never put her in a situation where she wont be comfortable.

[bluefete]

GO FOR IT.

Don't live your life regretting what could have been.